One of the most common requests to marriage counselors and psychologists today is "Help save my marriage." With divorce rates for first marriages at an all time high and the divorce rate for second marriages above the 70th percentile, it is no wonder that so may people are trying to figure out what is wrong with their marriages. It is also no wonder that so many psychologists today are trying to help save marriage.

Alcoholism, drug addiction, pornography addiction, and physical abuse mean that the marriage couple needs serious therapy and rehabilitation work. Whether one person has the problem or it is shared by both parties, the couple will need therapy. No matter how serious the couple is, they can not help save marriage by themselves. These problems are too serious to be dealt with by the couple alone.

'The Golden Rule' helps save many marriages. If you find yourself asking the question what to do to help save my marriage then you might want to try this exercise. It has already helped many couples from failing marriages. Many know 'The Golden Rule' from their childhood, being do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The first step with this is to remember that you should treat your spouse how you would like to be treated, not the way you think they do treat you. Try to speak in soft even tones that promote calmness. Think about how you would like to be greeted when you come home from work and do the same for your spouse. Instead of nagging for something to get done, ask nicely and then do it yourself. While you may be annoyed, if saving your marriage is what is most important, this shouldn't be too difficult to do.

When you married this person, you loved them with your whole heart, right? In truth, you still do. Unfortunately, all of the garbage of life has blown through and covered that up. The mess can be 'cleaned up'. You have the answer to the question, "How can I help save my marriage?" Love means putting the other person's feelings ahead of your own, and in time they will do the same.

Lastly, don't read this and say to yourself, "I've tried that." and just give up. When there is hurt and pain in a marriage it may take some time for both people to come around to the conclusion that the situation is fixable. An evening of kind words won't fix a year or more of harshness and fighting. Remember that love is patient and working together slowly but surely, you can say, "I help save my marriage".

Used to be, in the old days, that marriages lasted forever; "'till death do us part" actually had a binding meaning and people grew old together...for better or for worse no one went around asking how to save marriage. Seems like those days are over, marriages last less and less everyday and people often find themselves asking how to save my marriage? One way to save a marriage is to work it out. Negotiation is very important while working out problems. Marriage counselors help married couples work through their problems and differences. Even though they may seem expensive, they are well worth it if they can help save your marriage.